Marriage: Are you Friends or Frien-emies?
- Marlene Bierworth
- Apr 16, 2017
- 2 min read
Commitment in Marriage and Life: Today and Always
It has been said that a successful marriage is made up of:
Two forgiving people
Two committed people
Two great friends
Two respectful people
Two fighters
Two lovers
Write the first descriptive word that pops in your head when you think of your significant-other. _________!
Really? You must be having a great day.
I'm sure that you, along with everyone else, would like to live in that mindset every minute of every day. After all, you married your best friend and your vows were spoken while standing amidst a bed of roses.
But occasionally, life has a way of squishing the flowers and pounding them to smithereens. When our best dreams are intercepted with a reality punch; in those moments that the unexpected WHAM IN THE GUT cripples you, you wonder: friend or frien-emy?
Perhaps you need to re-think your description of a friend, I'm talking about a real friend. One that:
loves you enough to correct you when you're wrong
loves you in the bad times as well as the good
sees your potential even when you can't
encourages, inspires, and mentors you
pushes you gently out of your comfort zone
laughs and cries with you
supports your dreams and helps you prioritize
reminds you of who you are and where you've come from
A true friend is not always your favourite person. They are human and their attempts at helpfulness may not always come in the forms you expect; but remember, they love you unconditionally. And that is what seals all the broken moments. It bonds you together with glue that will grip forever.
Both friend and frien-emie within a marriage relationship have the potential to grow a wild and wonderful rose garden, healthy and fruitful. It can also become a beautiful sight for all those who wander through your fragrant lives and best of all display a pattern for others to follow.
So, the next time you think you are married to the enemy, think again. Perhaps, your partner sees beyond the telescope lens you are looking though. Perhaps, they've earned the respect to be heard and considered. Perhaps, in the sharing of vows, you have committed yourself to view life through their eyes and remember you have now become two.
A friend loves at all times. Enjoy your spouse, your best friend, in the good and the bad times as you travel life's journey with them.
Today, why don't you do something special for the friend whom you have agreed to spend the rest of your life with? Grow a new section of your garden.
And never be afraid to cultivate. You will never regret acts of pruning. It will bring new life to the dead plants. With wonder, watch your awesome garden blossom before your eyes, into a life of beauty planted deep with the one you love.
Have a blessed day... Marlene.
